we'll laugh about this in years to come

“You said I killed you - haunt me, then!
The murdered do haunt their murderers, I believe.
I know that ghosts have wandered on earth.
Be with me always - take any form - drive me mad!
only do not leave me in this abyss, where I cannot find you!”
(Emily Bronte)

Today I let myself believe that:
I am not some nineteenth century maiden.
I am not not defined by that relationship.
I am my own person.
I am going to get over it.